251. Fools think they have won a battle
        When they bully with harsh speech,
        But it is knowing how to forbear
        That makes one victorious.

      The worse of the two
      Is one who retaliates when abused.
      One who does not retaliate
      Wins a battle hard to win.

      Knowing that the other person is angry,
      Those who remain mindful and calm
      Act in their own best interest
      And in the interest of the other too.

      This is to be a healer of both oneself
      And the other person also.
      But those who do not understand the Dhamma
      Will think you are a fool.

S.I,163 (SN 7.3)